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New for You! How Important are Photos with Profiles?
Description: How important is a photo with the profile? If you do not have a photo with your profile, why not?
Are there good reasons for not including a photo, if so, what are they?
Categories: Dating, Pen Pals, Friends: Member Surveys
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Submitted by: Nannette | View Member Profile | View Other Posts
Created: 10/15/2003
How important is a photo with the profile? If you do not have a photo with your profile, why not?
Are there good reasons for not including a photo, if so, what are they?
Female - Age Range: 21-30
I feel that since this is an online experience and different from what would happen out in the real world its best to leave no stone unturned. A picture can be real helpful in accessing a person. Yes their character and words are also important but you also need to be able to have an image in mind when corresponding with this person. Imagine a face to face meeting, a picture helps generate the same atmosphere.
Female - Age Range: 21-30
I think the picture is very important. It establishes a quick connection with the member as opposed to just a name. Regardless, of what one might say, physical attraction plays a big role in a dating relationships and having a picture speeds up the selection process.
JulieErin:
Female - Age Range: 21-30
You may use my alias
Photos are extremely important in profiles. Even if looks aren't a priority in finding that special someone, there still needs to be some degree of physical attraction. Posting a photo allows others to see how you take care of yourself and it honestly allows people to determine if you're someone they could wake up next to for the rest of their lives. People's eyes are truely 'windows into the soul,' and eyes are the most important part of a photo (well, next to a smile:). Photos that clearly show your eyes are the best. I wouldn't expect someone to write to me without seeing my photo, and I'd prefer to see photos of someone before writing them, too. Even if you don't have a scanner, places like WalMart and Eckerds will put your pictures on a cd, or you could have a friend shoot some pictures on a digital camera and upload them straight to your computer. With all the options that exist, there's no good excuse for not posting a picture. It's the courteous thing to do.
Female - Age Range: 21-30
Photos with profiles are very important. If a guy writes to me without a photo and expects to truly spark my interest...he won't. Physical attraction is just as important intellectual and spiritual compatability. While a picture can't guarantee 'chemistry,' it will at least help rule out guys that I know I wouldn't be interested in.
That said, I do not have a picture posted. Why? I live in a small town and don't want to be recoqnized by a small handful of men on here who live in my town. I also haven't found anyone on here to really pique my interest. I think there are other valid reasons others may have for not posting photos. But to those on the other side who don't know those reasons it makes the no-photo person seem a little questionable. It makes one wonder what he/she is hiding.
Female - Age Range: 21-30
One reason I do not have a picture online is because I don't have easy access to the technology to put my picture online.
Female - Age Range: 21-30
The photo is a very important. Even though I met someone who did not have a photo online. He is such a wonderful person and I liked him for who he is. Faith is things that are not seen. Later he sent me pictures of him and his two year old daughter. Let me be honest if his picture on online I would have not emailed him. I really enjoy his time and conversation so everthing else is superficial.
Female - Age Range: 21-30
Top 5 Reasons to Have a Photo
1) It is more likely that you are really who you say you are.
2) I helps me form an image of who you are--to put a face with the emails.
3) Looks are not everything, but let's face it, there has to be some physical attraction, so I need to know
4) Having a photo tells me that you are serious about using this site, that you are willing to make yourself at least a little vulnerable
5) Much can be learned about a person through photos--what activities you like, how you dress (are you liberal/conservative), what is important to you, especially if you have more than one photo.
Also, what can I say, I'm more likely to write to someone with a photo than someone who doesn't have one. You need to show me you can be a little bit vulnerable by putting yourself out there for me to see.
After having read the sound-offs, I can see only one good reason for not having a photo. That reason is if, as one person said, you are a prominent public figure and having a photo on here could be a social or business mistake. However, if that is the case, I think in your description you ought to say why you don't have a photo and indicate a willingness to email one if requested.
I don't think that people on either side of the ugly/beautiful, thin/fat spectrums should avoid putting photos up b/c they are embarassed or self-concious. Let's face it, if things go the way you wish you'll have to (get to) meet them anyway, so they might as well know what you look like now.
I don't have scanner or a digital camera, but have all 10 of my spots full, so you can too.
Fedele:
Female - Age Range: 21-30
You may use my alias.
Well, I think that profiles which use photos get viewed more often than others. I have a photo on my profile because of this. Also I feel that men, being visual, will say it is extreamly important to them.
I have contacted men who's profiles did not contain a photo if they stood out to me in other ways. The photo is not the only thing I check when I search. I also check: age, location, denomination, last time on the site and race. If that all speaks to me then I view their entire profile and may contact them. It's important to keep our options open.
A lack of a photo does not mean that they are shy or not attractive to themselves, perhaps they do not want their face online. Some feel very strongly about this, so I try to keep an open mind when I search.
Cynthia
Female - Age Range: 31-40
A photo is a vital part of knowing the person in the profile. If we're serious about connecting with others, then it seems common courtesy is to provide a framework for friendship to develop. I recognize that some may have reasons for not posting photos such as fears that recognition may affect their career or just a desire to remain anonymous. However, I am much more interested in responding to profiles with photos. By the way, I work in a high profile position and still have posted my photos. I belive that upholding my membership conduct on this site with the greatest of sincerity and integrity is paramount! I'm not concerned about what others may 'think'. Character counts more than looks in the long run...for those who are concerned about facial appearances. AND, that goes for both females and males. Hey, guys...read the profiles please! A photo also helps show your level of seriousness and committment to the online process, in my opinion. So to those without photos, we'd love to see your shining faces! :-)
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I think many males and females do look at the photo's before actually reading the information. Therefore a picture would be a definite bonus!
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I rarely read profiles without a photo. I must be able to be physically attracted to someone before I'm willing to become emotionally attached to them. I can't explain why I feel this way but that's just the way it is for me. I'm usually attracted to those who are similar to me in physical appearance. I would not be attracted to someone considered extremely attractive because I am average in looks.
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I Would like to know whats the difference bettwen who put their picture and those don't put it? If I put it can I remove it after?
Thanks,
ChrisAZ
Female - Age Range: 31-40
Hi Everyone
The question is: Why have a photo with your profile?
People who refuse to communicate until they've seen a photo come across as really superficial, inflexible and boring. How much fun can you be if you have to have a picture before you can talk to someone? Have you ever used a phone? Have you ever spoken to colleagues for years on the phone or via email without ever having physically seen them? I have. I do. (And it is so much fun when you actually meet because you have built up a relationship already.)
Photos induce all sorts of stereotypes about people. You don't have to see a person's face to be polite and charming. I have never seen a photograph of God, but my relationship with Him is the most important relationship in my life. God's face is shown by His personality. His character. What we read in the Bible, what we experience in our thoughts, feelings and shared experiences with Him, is how we relate to the Trinity. That is how we see God's face.
In my experience, men who chase after me for my looks turn me off. Based on my looks, they make huge assumptions about the type of person I am and get it badly wrong. They try to impress me with all the materialistic stuff, which anyone who takes the time to get to know me, understands that I have no interest in.
All the men I have loved, have been guys I got to know very slowly as friends and then one day it dawned on me that my feelings were more than friendship. All of those men confessed to having always been INTERESTED - but rather than come on strong, they took their time to get to know me.
I have never seriously dated a man who I've not known as a friend first.
I am attracted to people's minds, not their looks. Their opinions, their thoughts and their dreams - that is what hooks me.
I hate being judged by my looks - there is so much more to me.
It is the same sort of rubbish like the way some people speak to you depending on what job they think you do, or don't do. I have arrived at places and have been spoken to really badly, but when it dawns on them that I am not just some dumb person, but one of the speakers, major apologies.
It is time we get serious and start valuing others for just being people. Not for what genes they happened to be born with; not for what qualifications they have or haven't pursued; not for what job they happen to do or not do; or how photogenic they are or are not.
GET REAL!
These words were found on a wall of a concentration camp:
I believe in the sun, even though it doesn't shine,
I believe in love, even when it isn't shown,
I believe in God, even when He doesn't speak.
Friendships/relationships are all built upon major communication and 'give and take'. If a person is unwilling to give of themselves to another just because they haven't posted a photo on a website, then what hope is there of ever having true deep communication. It is time that we communicated with each other's hearts not just with each other's faces.
Yes, I do have strong opinions, but I am also very sweet, attractive, open and flexible.
NB I have met some really fantastic people on this site - both with and without photographs. Thanks guys for taking the time to get to know me.
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I do have a photo with my profile. In the past I have NOT used a photo. I did not want people to write to me because of my looks....HOWEVER, I found that over time, I DID want to KNOW that they found me attractive and I found them attractive. On several occasions, I spent significant time getting to know someone and when we did finally meet, or I saw a picture, realized I was not AT ALL physically attracted. I am not shallow, yet at the same time, there is great validity to the chemistry between a man and a woman. God created us that way, and I want to appreciate and experience that wonderful gift He has given us! Why waste anyone's time 'not knowing' if they are at least somewhat attractive to the other???
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I don't have a photo on this site primarily because I'm not into photos. There are always men buzzing around so it is SO refreshing to have a guy just talk to me and not try to chat me up.
What guys don't realise, is that some of us women have had really bad experiences with men, who just see us as a face or a body.
I have had stalkers, both church guys and total strangers (just men on the street who I've never even spoken to) - who have, without my knowledge, been following my movements and then pounced (from behind me), declaring undying love etc. At times it has been really scary.
At one time I had 3 stalkers at the same time and it wasn't safe for me to go out by myself - my friends and family had to escort me to and from home - even in the daytime. Can you imagine it, 3 separate guys, (1 church guy and 2 total strangers), all acting totally independently of each other, each of them stalking me. It was MADNESS. Law enforcement agencies were involved and these guys were criminally convicted for what they did. I received death threats from the church guy and I had to change my phone number loads of times. I'd come home and my answer machine would be full of threats from this guy. I had to move home and attend a different church.
I'm not sure if it's a family thing.
My sister also has stalkers. Once she had a major stranger stalker. He used to leave horrible letters and indecent, (but headless) photos of himself in her mailbox. She was frightened to open her mail because of what she'd find. She eventually had to have a police escort to and from her home because of his threats towards her. One lunchtime this nutter kidnapped her. He had her at knifepoint etc for 3 days. She wasn't raped (she talked her way out of it).... but nearly. She eventually fought him off and escaped - screaming for help. It was a really horrible time. She had to endure a horrendous court case. He's still in jail.
So why have a photo plastered on this site and risk getting a load of screwed up guys stalking you (in real life or on the net)...... no thank you.
Guys, GET A LIFE
I'm into personalities - not looks. I'm really attractive, but my body and my face are only a really small part of me.
It would be nice if more men on this site were not so shallow and felt the same way.
Today, just two days after I wrote the stuff above, some jerk approached me from behind saying he wanted a kiss and wanted me to suck his thingy.
This is my life.
I wear long skirts to the floor, I don't expose my body, but this is what I get constantly. It stinks.
Because this occurred at 11.30am, outside a high school, I reported it to the police just in case this guy tried this on with one of the female students. It was scary for a bit. But that is what happens to me ALL the time.
The anonymity of not having my photo on this site protects me.
Female - Age Range: 31-40
I believe that a photo with an individual's profile is very important because everyone have different reasons in wanting to see one. For me, a photo is not priority, I desire to read and sense the heart of a person.
We are all fearfully and wonderfully made in God's eyes, and being an attractive man or woman is liken to the icing on the cake; but being healthy is much more valuable, to God be the glory. Some of us are too vain, and I suspect that this is one of the reasons why there are so many divorces and broken engagements etc., because some of the females and the males still have a roving eye. They feel that they should not be 'tied down' and commitment goes out of the window. However, they seem not to realize that a person should be loved for his or her self and not for how he or she looks, I am talking about agape love in action; afterall, we know that if God bless us to live to a ripe old age, our looks etc.,will change.
God bless you all.
Female - Age Range: 31-40
To many people, a photo is important and can be the final deciding factor in whether or not a person makes contact. Seeing his photograph on the profile eliminates the guessing and the wasting of time.
But I don't place great emphasis on the photo. I am mainly concerned with his character, as portrayed in the words of his profile. In my case, every person with whom I have initiated contact has been a person who did not post his photograph. But I make contact with the hope that he would send me a photograph soon enough, or post his photograph on the website, however briefly. The main concern I would have about his looks is 'what would our children look like?'.
I post my photographs on my profile.
I assume that people who do not post a photo do so for the following reasons.
1. A new member might not be able to find a suitable photo that he can reduce to the small footprint required for this website. He might eventually post his photo.
2. A well-known person wants to remain anonymous.
3. A nice ugly person wants to have a chance at communicating with another person and proving his worth without the bias that a photo would introduce. I totally understand that, and I think it is a smart move. The aim is not to deceive, but to give a person the chance to know him as a wonderful person, so that by the time she sees his photograph, she will be more willing to look beyond physical appearance and appreciate him just the same as before.
4. Very attractive people do not want to be hit on by shallow people with whom they do not match.
Female - Age Range: 31-40
Pictures seem to be very important on this site. I think it is because we have become a visually oriented society. And we have forgotton that there is more to a person than what he/she looks like.
Female - Age Range: 41-50
At first i didn't want to believe that a photo was necessary as one should not be concerned w/ the looks of a person when getting to know someone [we wouldn't take issue if we were blind].. however... i do find that since i've been on here a while i tend to be quite leary of a profile w/o one and have even searched specifically only those w/ profiles...so i spose whether the rationalle is reasonable or not we are subject to our senses and this sight one being one of the most important to those of us who have it...
Female - Age Range: 41-50
A photo is important because you get a chance to evaluating you possible date without making fantasies of who he or she is, i.e. you make up your mind more of less instantly with the aid of more senses working together.
Also, you match needs the photo anyway to finally make up his or her mind. It is tedious trying to send to more than one you may be interested in.
At first, I didn't want to be seen by everyone taking a 'desperate' route to look for a partner. Truth be told, it is a need and the more you cry out the more response you'd get. Seek and you shall find. When I finally posted my photo, I felt good about it. It looked good and I am not ashamed of being wgo I am. Thank God for the possiblity of a marketplace to shop for the closest partner in cyberspace!
Female - Age Range: 41-50
PHOTO OR NO PHOTO .... ?
I can understand that we each have our reason for choice, in this regard. I feel this is an individual matter, and one I would like to think we all can be accepting of.
Personally, what I read in a profile tells me heaps about who you are - photo or no photo!
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I think photos and a person profile is very important. You have some idea what the person looks like. You are asked certian questions. Which help.
Nannette:
Female - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias.
When reviewing the submissions for this, I read one person's response that a photo doesn't capture the character. This is so true.
It's amazing how many times I have received the most foul-mouthed, evil, hate-mail from someone who joined our site, claiming to be a Christian, and then someone or something got them riled up and they let us have it. Sometimes over the fact that we warn them they are breaking our rules or they continue to do so and we delete their account. They then call us foul names and threaten to lawsuits and more.
But the thing that always amazes me is that if they have a photo online, I look at it and say, 'My! From their photo, I would never have guessed that they could be this way. They look so nice, or pleasant, or sweet, or pretty, or whatever. I would expect someone acting like this to look like a convict or pirate or call-girl or hoodlum, or whatever.
One woman had a lovely photo, but felt it was her role on this site to tell the majority of men what she found fault with in their profiles or with their photos and she wasn't nice about it! You could not mistake what she was doing as constructive criticism! For instance: You're a loser! or Why bother looking for a mate, who'd want to marry you! or You are ugly, people like you shouldn't post a photo! -- very cruel things! She did not see any of this to be at fault, but was removed from our site immediately. You can't imagine that foul-mouthed things that came from her and her friend -- both who had lovely photos! She even claimed to be a minister of sorts and had a Christian poetry website! Amazing! Her friend even bombasted us and we pointed out her vile comments to her and she defended her as a lovely Christian and felt there was nothing wrong with what she had said or done to us or the men on this site. It amazes me sometimes what people who take the name of Jesus do.
Anyway, photos are nice, but don't be fooled by a handsome or pretty face. Sometimes beauty is only skin deep. Get to know them too!
Sometimes I don't think photos are fair, because there are lovely people who are that way because of their personalities and characters -- but that does not display in a photo. It is a beauty that you see after getting to know them. Too many people in this world, and on this site, are shallow, and don't consider those who are not model material -- males and females!
Be sure to keep in mind that sense of humor, kindness, tenderness, and other good traits make a face shine with beauty -- but you won't see that until you get to know them as a person!
However, in the real, non-virtual world, how many of us meet someone who is hidden behind a veil or wall, and get to know them without seeing them? We don't, unless we're blind. So, in all fairness, you get a chance to see if there is a physical attraction. In my single days, I was attracted to a man who had a great sense of humor, and a prominent nose -- my family described him as homely, even ugly, when I showed them photos, but they didn't see him as I did. I thought he was very handsome.
A close friend of ours is short, kind of runty, and bald, but his sense of humor makes him cute as a button in my eyes, and likely more-so in his wife's eyes. But I don't think his photo would stand up to scrutiny on a single's website.
So I guess it all goes back to the fact that you have to combine the personality, character, and looks.
Nannette
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I first took your free trial and was more looking for other christians to talk too. Since continuing my membership I would like to submit a picture.I need instructions/help for submitting a picture.
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I have become intrigued with someone who doesn't have a photo, but they need to SAY a LOT more, so that you get the feeling 'that you know them' at least somewhat. With a photo it is easier becasue there is something visual to build on.
Cleanhearted:
Female - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias
Hi! I personally feel that photos are important, because God gave us eyes to look upon the beauty of his work. It is important for me to see the person I am reading about as I am a very visual person. If someone has a lusting or selfish spirit that is between them and the Lord, I want to see who it is I'm looking for. I don't care what anyone says, appearance is important, we are human after all. I'm not perfect and neither is the man God has for me. Progress not perfection I say!!!
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I think photos are a very important addition to profiles. I plan to add one as sonn as a get an updated one of myself. Sometimes we plan only to send photos to those with whom we share our personal information, and to me that is also understandable. It's an individual choice. They are not necessarily needed with those profiles who are just seeking friendship and penpals. Those that are seeking romantic relationships should make photos a top priority.
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I think that photos are very important to have with the profiles. I don't feel it is fair for others to view your photos and profiles and and they can't view yours. It is unethical. Because of our nature, our humanism, we are visuals. God made all of us in His delight, but what one's perception of an attraction may not be anothers. So, why not let everyone have a chance to see up front who they are talking to. What insecurities keep you in hiding? Confidence, and a healthy self-love will outshine any imperfections, and that is attractive. Give yourself and others a chance to experience the very beauty that lies within you, and gently exposes itself through the wonder of a smile.
jet1encourager:
Female - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias. When I first joined this site, I did not have a photo available. After about a month, when I got a couple of photos and put them into my profile I immediately got responses. Also, I have had people ask for a photo before I had one and they did not write back when I did not have one. So I can see that a photo is very important, especially if one is on the site looking for a dating experience, and especially marriage possibilities.
Female - Age Range: 41-50
I would like get in my opinion on pictures on our profiles. Number one..I believe most go into a profile and want to look at a picture first. They may not go any further and miss the mate God has for them There are a FEW of us who look at other important qualities. Sometimes I do not even look at a pic first. I look at the committment to the Lord Jesus Christ and if the person believes in sex after marriage. That tells me all I need to know. If I read that a person is fully committed to the Lord, that they give their whole lives to him, that he guides their paths, that they are truly Christian, then still ask me first for a picture first, then I question- are they being guided by God or with their carnel, fleshy eyes? Experience told me the later. I had written to someone for a while, and that person told me that they were not writing to anyone else. They only talked to me, they looked for my e-mail every day. This went on for around a month. He loved my profile and my qualities. Then we exchanged pics. Yep, I never heard from them again. That is shallow and not walking in the spirit, but by flesh.
Number 2- Reality check! I am in the 'older' generation. Barbies or Kens are we not. I do not like games. If we walk in the spirit, then 'Walk' in the spirit. I still will not put my pic in. Only true christians will answer then
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I will admit 'balking' the first time I approached the idea of submitting a photo. After all, shouldn't my personality and character be so much more important than how I look? When I did finally send a photo on that first occasion, it wasn't the best that I had, just for the sake of rebelling at the idea. However, you can tell quite a bit from a persons photograph...and whether or not we want to admit it, people do respond to appearances. So, until we develop cameras that can photograph a persons character or 'spirit', we are stuck with the conventional camera representations. Even I have to admit finding some photographs a little more appealing than others just because of my own personal bias and preferences. As Christians, hopefully we realize that while a picture may be worth a thousand words, there are a million or so more we won't discover without getting to know the person better. Pardon the following analogy. A friend of mine had a professional photo taken of her award winning poodle, a positively gorgeous animal. However, the mut she rescued from the pound was far more intelligent and fun to play with. Pictures are fine as long as we don't get stuck there.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
I think it is less important to women than men.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
When someone wants a photo ... I think they are more concerned with how I look than who I am. Men have always been attracted to me because I am pretty. Then they seem surprised when they find out I have a brain too.
Men who don't want to talk to you before they SEE YOU seem very shallow to me.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
1. I think that all too often, people place greater emphasis on what a person looks like.rather than his/her character, etc.
2. Sometimes a person wants to protect their privacy and not be identified by casual inquirers, and the rest of the world. They sed their photo to serious admirers
I did not put my photo up because I feel that the person who contacts me as a result of my profile, (not because of my face ) may be genuinely interested in me.
I do admit there are advantages and disadvantages to this approach.
Female - Age Range: 51-60
It is absolutley important! Great and teriffic looks are not always what we are looking for, but just to be able to put a face to someone. It makes it so much more personal and interesting!
Female - Age Range: 51-60
Pictures are like book covers, they only tell the topic, they really don't tell what's in the heart.I believe if it's in God's will, no matter how short how tall, fat or slim, things will go Gods way.
God Bless you with this survey
Female - Age Range: 61-70
I think to much is put into what you look like and having your picture put into the profile. I feel we should go by the person themself and how much they love the Lord. There may be someone out there is not the best looking but would be a wonderful, loving mate. I thought as Christians we were not to put so much into looks.
prettyladyjoyce:
Female - Age Range: 61-70
You may use my alias.
I realize photos are important to men but I wish they weren't. When I am asked for my photo I give these responses: 1) I don't have a current one; 2) I don't photograph well. 3) I don't want to be 'chosen' just for my looks, but want to be considered for what and who I am, first. However, if a man seems interested in me as a person, I will send whatever photo I can find. Men should keep in mind that when a man who is short and fat (and maybe balding, as well) insists that a lady look like 'Ms. America' before he will carry on a correspondence, it just isn't realistic.
It is also too bad that we ladies outnumber the men, and I also appreciate it when guys will look at women who are older than they are - rather than limiting the ladies to 5-10 years younger!
Male - Age Range: 21-30
Extremely important. I don't consider people without pictures.
Male - Age Range: 21-30
The human face is God's ideal GUI (Graphical User Interface). It is part of the body that He never intended to remain covered up or hidden. He even uses His own face as a metaphore for a personal knowledge of Him - 'to seek His face.' What a powerful relationship tool the face and it's expressions can be. So SMILE everyone, and post your photo.
Now I understand that in this world not everyone has quite the beautiful face he or she was meant to have, but if anyone is going to pass you by because of your face, better they do it now than after you've wasted time on them eh?
Male - Age Range: 21-30
Well, photos are important for about 2 reasons. One) How do we know you are who you say you are. I could be some over-weight, beer-drinking, druggy who setup a profile without any pictures and write whatever I wanted to to get you to chat with me. By the way, I'm not! You can call a few friends who are members on here and ask them if you want ;-) Two) When people chat in person, they do not hold up a cardboard sign with a wooden handle attached to the back of it which may read 'Ask Me For a Photo' or 'No Photo Available' You are talking to the person's face. Any psychology book, social work book, sociology book, that has been put together by professionals in those areas state that physical attraction is the FIRST response to engaging people. Along with this, it is also a great way to know the person, just like in real-life if you were to meet a person at a church retreat or at college, etc. If you are afraid of what you look like or do not have the means to attach a picture or do not have a picture, find a way to post one...responses will come greater if you don't have one in the first place.
TimSean:
Male - Age Range: 21-30
you may use my alias
I have photos on my profile, since I want the girl to know what I look like. I'm picky about how the girl looks and so I wish all who could to put their picture on their profile. I have at times just read and thought the girl sounded like someone who be special to me. I would dream of what she looked like through her drescription only to be disappointed when she did put her picture on her profile.
Male - Age Range: 31-40
very important
Male - Age Range: 31-40
Unless the woman wants to send a pic to my offsite email address within a few days it will determine if I continue the contact. If it's for a friendship and we have similar interests a pic doesn't matter for quite a while. If It's for romance (and there is no pic) I won't respond unless something in the personal responce area at the end of the profile catches my attention. I do look at the whole profile but someone who doesn't write much info at the end of the profile doesn't have great communication skills. Something I look for.
Male - Age Range: 31-40
It's nice to meet people but, without a photo,...that won't really go too far for me. That person most-likely will only remain as an internet friend. Maybe that's wrong but, it's the truth.
Greg
Male - Age Range: 31-40
I think that photos are very important with profiles because we should be physically attracted to the person we are getting to know. Of course this should not be our main motivation for pursuing a relationship with someone because looks have nothing to do with personality or the heart, and especially have nothing to do with how much a person loves the Lord, but we should be attracted to our potential mate. Thank you and God bless.
Male - Age Range: 31-40
Hey, this is for many of you & many with no photos. I DON'T BELIEVE the reasons given for not posting photos. You say you don't want to attract men with your physical look (But if you dress correctly that would be honoring your creator) What is really a dishonor is to attract men with the things you put in your profiles. You think we don't realize how shallow you make yourself when you show a high income level, there you'll get the real shallow men after your money. I'm sick, upset and disappointed of reading 'economic' profiles don't show your real inner pers...well...you may not be more than that, in that case I don't need to see your photo.
I heard that 30% of dating people on the internet are married, it must be among those without photos. There may also be some in christian sites.
That's a right question because there are some photos without profiles. I never contact a woman before reading the profile no matter how beautiful she looks to me, to do otherwise would be lack of character, but many people without photos seem they never want to show their image unless they are sure you have been communicating with them for weeks or longer and they think you are really 'cought'. I accepted that a few times in the past but when at last the person hiding the photo showed it to me it brought her very down to know I wouldn't continue communication.
Tears and whispers and letters and arguments, etc. pursued me for long time. It's a time wasting..., it's heart breaking. We shouldn't be extrict about looks but yes, don't fail to understand that looks are a strong factor and God gave men -much more than women- a strong 'looks-drive' sence regarding 'eros'. It doesn't mean that it should make us blind to not see inside, but you girls don't expect someone will fall in love with you only because of your 'inside', that would be a total deception, watch out!!!
Don't fear to show your photo right up front, a no prejudiced smile may gain the whole world for ever!!!
Male - Age Range: 31-40
I have been having trouble with my computer and cannot get any where with loading a picture!!! Thats why I sent them to Larry . Bye the way , Did you recieve them? In Messiah Jim SturmII I sent them last MOnday!!!!!
Male - Age Range: 31-40
I believe a photo in a profile would be great to have even though I've been in here for a long time with the same picture of myself. Even if you have a picture in here for awhile, it should be updated every so often. Just to stay current.
With a picture he or she does not have to ask a lot about her or him since the picture will show who he or she is. A picture is like a 1000 words or more.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
Alot of women dont think that a photo is all that important.Remember we are 'vision orriented'. We are made that way;so if you are not happy with that.....talk to our Creator!!! lol Any person who has a photoless profile and doesnt get many responses,may wish to re-evaluate their thinking.I agree that 'looks' should not be the only reason for contact,but that attraction has to be there.Dont you agree??? Best wishes in your search!!
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I prefer profiles with photos, more than one is best....makes it more personal....bust AND full body ones are best....I will ignore ones (including emails) without them....I feel that if you do not have one, you are dishonest and probably hiding something. Unclear photos are annoying since it is hard for us to REALLY know how you look -easy for you to see yourself in them though. It is also difficult to begin a conversation with someone, and then find out later whether or not they are visually appealing. It can be hard for the other person who did not initially post a photo see you lose interest at that point. I think compatability on spiritual, physical and emotional levels are all equally important.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I find that photos are very important part of a profile. Often I feel if people do not want to upload their photo I doubt their seriousness in find that some one special. If a person does not have a picture or can't afford to have a picture scanned I will have mercy on these people but those who can afford to put a photo of themselves with their profile, are you really serious about building a relationship with someone from this site.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I believe a photo with a profile is vitally important since appearance, with all its aspects and implications, is definitely part a part of the chemistry that exists between a couple. There's nothing superficial about wanting to see what the individual looks like. The Lord did bless us with vision and the capability for physical attraction, and it's definitely a dynamic in an intimate relationship. In making decisions about a future partner, I want all the information I can get. I will add that I tend to skip profiles that do not include pictures.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I believe membership on this site should be restricted to individuals who submit photos of themselves. And I would even go as far as to require each member to submit a minimum of two photographs, one of them being a portrait, and the other a head-to-toe shot.
I find profiles without pictures a great irritant and I usually have my search block out profiles without photos. I have no problem with the world seeing what I look like, and I have 9 photos in my profile. But then again, photography is one of my interests.
Some may find this attitude superficial, but I just cannot develop an attraction for a woman without seeing what she looks like and knowing I like what I see. I have a certain mental image of the shape I would like a prospective mate to possess. A pretty face and nice legs are essential for me, and I want to see clear evidence of this in profile photos. I would like to be sure that a prospect is an acceptable approximation of my ideal before I stick my neck out expressing interest. Not to say that I pursue this ideal at the expense of considering compatibility and character issues, but the right one for me has BOTH the right looks and the right character and cultural compatibility. The absence of any of these virtues is unacceptable to me.
I believe one should not be self-conscious about showing a photo of one's self. Tastes are varied and I believe there is an appreciative match for every shape.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
Lets not doubt what our God can do, He can lead two people together whether or not there is a photo... He gave us choice on the day He created us... therefore we all have that choice whether we post a photo... Lets not lose perspective as to whats realy important. His leading! He is the greatest example, let us all follow Him and His leading!
quicksilver:
Male - Age Range: 41-50
You may use my alias
I realize that there are people that do not want to post a picture of themselves because:
1) They don't believe they look good in a photo
2) They think it is too shallow to place so much emphasis on the physical
3) They are very attractive and they don't want all the responses based on their outward beauty with total oblivion to their personality/character.
I feel I don't have the time to go through every profile so I have to find some way to narrow my search. Since I would like to have an attractive (to me) lady in my life, I find it natural to limit my search to ladies that post their photo.
In response to the above reasons I'd like to reply with the following:
1) Don't depend soley on your own perceptions. Consult with your good friends. They'll see your true beauty and will not tend to dwell on physical characteristics you think are unattractive. Perhaps they will help with best presenting yourself.
2) I think this reason is least honest and most hypocritical of all. People using this reason ought to ask themselves the following question: 'Do I care if I am with someone that I perceive as physically unattractive.' Beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. But to question a possible 'beholder's' motives and sincerity because they want to see what you look like is simply being arrogant. I post my picture, and I have been contacted by ladies from whom I requested a photo some of which replied indignantly 'that I could be so shallow as to be so concerned with a person's physical appearance.' My advice: Get real! (My future lady will know that I think she is most beautiful woman in the universe, but another guy may not share my opinion. So?)
3) My advice: Just delete and don't respond to the shallow incoming mail. Use your 'little black book' to block those that just won't take the hint that you're not interested. You have many opportunities to respond with encouraging letters.
Finally, though you want to present your best qualities, honesty is the best policy. If you don't normally look like your glamour shots photo, then you should include other photo(s) that portray the real (but attractive) you.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I am constantly amazed at how many people will not include their photo in the profile. It is anoying and disappointing to not be able to get a mental picture of the person you are trying to get to know.
The simple reality is that words are rarely enough to sell yourself to the average searcher. How hard can it be to send in a photo?
Male - Age Range: 41-50
I find it nice to be able to see who I am getting to know whether that person has a good photo of themselves or not. It just helps you see if you would be interested in getting to know them better from the start or if you are in the fellowship room checking out who they are.
It just saves you time in finding out who is really interested in you.
I know many people figure that a photo on there would not be the best as they would not get the responses they would with one on there. Sure in some cases yes but why have to get the rejection if they send a photo by mail to someone and that person tells them I am sorry but I am not interested in getting to know you. People know what they like and many times just seeing a photo will allow them to decide right then and there whether they would really like to get to know this person and possibly even meet.
Just like when you see someone at a Singles Retreat, Church or other places you decide from what they look like whether you want to go over and get to know them better. Sure there will be some people who will either get lots of people interested in them or not at all.
I have a photo on mine that needs to be updated one of these days when I get a new one taken but at least mine shows those interested whether they have an interest in getting to know me or not.
I guess a person sometimes has to experiment in the number of responses you receive with and without a photo to see what works for you.
Male - Age Range: 41-50
Dear Brethren: The reason why photo¡¯s are not important is because they create judgment of ones appearance. The person seeking a mate says they trust in God, but their trust is really in self. They expect God to send them some one who will fit their description, of what they expect, rather than what God would have in store for them. They desire some one attractive, or some one their age, or some one who is down to earth. Yet, they ask God to draw a God fearing Man to them. Someone, who will put God first in their life, and who will be first in every thing. And when God sends them that Man, or that woman, and that Man or woman does not meet according to their expectations, then, they give the God sent Man or woman the brush off. Why? Because they do not like what they see in the photograph. And be not fooled. God will not send you a ¡®Down to earth Man¡¯. Instead, He will send you a Spiritual Man, or woman, whose affections are on things above, and not whose affections are on things below. Many look on the outward appearances, instead of after the ¡®Inner Man¡¯, who is Christ. Thus, in their brush off, they, without knowing, reject the Christ within them, thus, failing to see what is on the inside of the New Creature, which is the Man hid deep in Christ. St. Paul said, ¡®Do not judge after the outward appearances¡¯, for the outward appearances are deceiving. And even though the Father knows what they have need of, they still prefer to have their expectations fulfilled according to their understanding and standards. They fail to realize that God is no respecter of persons, and that He is a respecter of the Spirit, which He sees within each Soul. The body, although a housing for the Soul, is still looked upon, by Christians, as some thing they should be attached to. This is deception. What they should be attached to is the Spirit of God, of whom Christ is. Nonetheless, the body, in itself, does have a purpose for being attached to the Soul. That purpose, as Jesus pointed out, is to transform its dense body substance into God¡¯s Light Substance. For, the Man Jesus, whom you saw going up, will return in like manner, saith the Word. That manner was Spiritual. For Jesus¡¯ body was transformed, or Translated, into an invisible Substance of Spirit Like Light. Thus, the return of Jesus will be in like manner as He went up, in the Spirit form. Those who have seen Him with the Single Eye of the Spirit, or with the Spiritual Mind of God, will see him come again, and, truly, I tell you, he is come again, as the scripture hath said. For those who judge according to appearances, these will trust only in what they see, and not in what they should believe in by Faith. Faith is a powerful tool. It moves mountains, heals the sick, blind, lame and the deaf and dumb. It even raises the dead from the grave, if ones Faith is substantially strong enough. But if one has to depend on sight, instead of their Faith, then, self is in the driver seat, and destruction is just around the corner for them. God¡¯s Will must be done not theirs. Let them receive the one whom He sends, and be content with the knowing that every thing is going to work together for the good to them that Love Him. But please, do not set limitations on your Love for God. Do not let your little wills get in the way of God¡¯s Will. Trust ye in the Lord, and he will draw, direct and bring All tings together for every ones Good. Why? Because He is a God of Goodness. Some one preached, saying, ¡®There is trouble in life, and that we should expect trials and tribulations¡¯. This statement is false. For God, who is Life, cannot have any trouble in Him. he is all Good, and All Loving. Trials and tribulations come as a result of what we sow in life. We must ¡®Reap¡¯ what we ¡®Sow¡¯. And what we Sow, are the so-called trials and tribulations which we must face when their fruits become due. God, who is Life, does not distribute trouble. He distributes Goodness to One and All alike. He pours His Goodness upon the believers and non-believers, alike. God Blesses each and every one with His Goodness, but not every one is awaken to that Goodness. Not All receive the blessings as they should. Why? Because many who believe not, do not seek His Goodness. Therefore, the Good that is being poured out to them becomes void, according to their beliefs. For, it is done unto each of them, ¡®AS¡¯, they believe. Jesus said, ¡°ONLY BELIEVE¡±, but many there be that doubt. Remember! All things are possible to them that ¡®BELIEVE¡¯, and Love God. But if you doubt, then, every thing that is possible will become impossible, because your beliefs make it so. We Reap ¡°THAT¡± which we Sow. And the Law of God is no respecter of Persons. It will mete out to us exactly that which we have sown for ourselves. But to those who will put their Trust in God, will find the Happiness in which they seek and look for. For, God will make it so. Those who put their Trust in photo¡¯s, or in outward appearances, will find nothing but the next lesson awaiting for them. And that, too, is good. For, he who began a Good work in you shall ¡®PERFORM IT¡¯ until the Day of Christ Jesus, or until Christ ¡®BE FOREMED IN YOU¡¯. Having shared this Truth, I hope the Spirit of God will make it Real to each and every ones Heart, Mind and Soul. May the Father continue to bless and prosper you in All things. Amen! Your Friend and Brother in Christ, Christianson.
P.S. If you put your Trust in God, he can cause you to be lifted up in the Spirit, as Philip was, and there you can see the Soul of Him who is trying to make contact with you, and there, you will know it is of God and not of Self. Think About That!
Male - Age Range: 51-60
althow i am currently coresponding with someone without a photo on their profile i would like to know out of curiosity what the person loks like i do not know if i would or wouldnt have contacted this person if i did not like their photo so it may be a blesssing in discuize that there is no photo i have to contact this person on faith not looks and i have found a friend we are todl to do things by faith in the word not by sight althow to me a photo is helpful i am sure in this case that it does not matter well i will close this is only my opinion
easygo:
Male - Age Range: 51-60
You may use my alias.
As the old saying goes, 'A picture is worth a thousand words.' Granted, most ladies would prefer the thousand words to the picture, but, its a man's world. Posting a photo is really kind of a 'no fault' thing. Some people like blue cars and some like green cars. Its no big deal, but if one is reticent to post a photo it indicates that they feel they have something to hide, and that is deception. The Bible method of spouse-choosing is for the lady to make herself available, and visible, and then to choose from among the suitors who come to vie for her affections. We do it unconsciously in social settings. If someone doesn't look attractive to us, both men and women, we usually just don't strike up a conversation with them. Also, for women to 'go hunting' is contrary to Scripture, plus there is another danger. Once one gets into the 'hunting' mode for some time it is difficult to get out of that mode and be satisfied with the one chosen. Happy 'honey-hunting!'
Male - Age Range: 51-60
A good positive photo of the real you allows others to view you in your best light, and validate what you say about yourself. No photo and no weight, and it says you are not confident about yourself, whether you are or not. True, it is superficial in a way, but what is the other option? Some people are critical about themselves which goes back to what I said above. Be confident. Take the risk. If anyone is negative, realize that they have lost a chance to know a really wonderful person - it is their loss, not yours. Jim
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