Submitted by: Fleuri | View Member Profile | View Other Posts
Created: 12/13/2003
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I don't understand why some relatives in my family are so anti-family. I feel that my parents are hitting 70 and could pass away or die from some disease, etc. (God forbid!)I have to accept this fact. I then spend time with my parents, especially at holidays. We live close to my cousins so we get together for special days like Thanksgiving or Christmas. My cousins and their kids families stay until about 3pm and then say,'Well, we are going to go now. Merry Christmas'. I know their parents would love to have them stay there longer. My aunt feels very sad when everyone leaves. When I was a kid, we traveled to Oregon and stay with my grandparents at Christmas. My Aunt/Uncle and my cousins would come over too. The house was full but it was a good feeling having all those family people around me when I was little. I was bored but found something to do to enertain myself. At an early age, I had a deep appreciation for my grandparents and family and loved them dearly. I was in the same house when all of my grandparents passed away and relish the memory. At the time, I was too afraid to be with them when they passed, but I'm older now and am more used to it. I love to hear the history of people in my family. It's like a big puzzle to put together. What were they like when they were younger? What was the world like during World War II? My mother does geneology and maybe asking questions and learning about my relatives is my way of doing that. You'd be suprised what you would learn if you start asking questions on Christmas afternoon to your relatives. I also loved to listen to the women talk. They would get at a table and talk about their husbands, the latest news, what's going on in their lives, gossip about family. I got to sit there and just listen and I loved it. I miss those times just listening to the women talk. My Aunt's grandkids don't even know what 'Grandparents Day' is! She never gets cards from her grandkids. My kids have adopted her as another grandparent and I send Happy Grandparents Day cards to her. Why couldn't some of her family send them too. Are they all so selfish? Don't they care? The holidays after September 11, they left early again after the celebrations and I thought How do you know that they will be around for next year? Enjoy the life that you have and your family now and always! Some people don't have family to enjoy. I have found there is no way to change them. I guess they have things to do at their house when they leave. I feel sorry for them that they don't really know their parents, especially now that they are getting older and older. Anyways, that's what I feel strongly about at this time of year. No one knows our time of death or how long we have on this earth. Let's make it the best that we can give. What would YOU like people to say at your memorial about you? Merry Christmas to all and to all a good hug!!
