Invest Time to Know Someone First

Description: Holding the past against someone. Judging, based on your past history.

Categories: Relationships: Divorce, Engagement, Singles
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Submitted by: ManWithFaith | View Member Profile | View Other Posts
Created: 2/27/2003

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By beginning a relationship with a need to know about one's past failures,
you are essentially judging them for something that may be transgressions of the past. If it is something that you have distrust about to start with, such as finances or infidelity, you have just doomed the potential relationship. Have we forgotten the Christian elements of "New creature" "Forgivenesss" and "Trust in him with all things" ?

If you insist on screening the potential mate with delicate questions like this right up front, you will most likely never know what the person is today, contrary to the past.
I tried being honest and transparent with debilitating circumstances.
To me, a person of substance will invest the time to know me first, and if there are still "Red Flags" in a persons charactor, they will be revealed.

Sincerely,
ManWith Faith